Thursday, March 12, 2020

I lost it!

Did you have a bad day? Did you say something cruel? Did you allow yourself to get frustrated by something that wasn't worth getting so worked up about? Did you simply lose control of yourself for a moment?

"The soul is like a bowl of water, and our impressions are like the ray of light falling upon the water. When the water is troubled it appears the light itself is moved too, but it isn't. So, when a person loses their composure it isn't their skills and virtues that are troubled, but the spirit in which they exist, and when that spirit calms down, so do those things." - Epictetus

None of us are perfect. We all make mistakes and regret them almost immediately. Be kind to yourself and remember that the skills and virtues by which we have chosen to live our lives are always there, even in the midst of our emotional responses. Stop. Re-calibrate yourself. Your values are right there where you left them. 

Tuesday, March 3, 2020

Kindly Considering Our Weaknesses

It can be an uneasy feeling to take a close look at ourselves. Self-assessment requires us to explore our beliefs about who we are and what we are capable of doing. We cannot be self-aware if we fail to reflect on our weaknesses.

Goethe has two maxims that are applicable here:
1. It’s a failure “to see yourself as more than you are.”
2. But also not to “value yourself at less than your true worth.”

Have you ever surprised yourself once you have made it to the other side of a harrowing or feared situation? Have you reflected on how you rose to the occasion or worked around some obstacle? We are creatures of estimating. We over estimate some abilities and underestimate others. Take some time to master the skill of judging yourself honestly. Look inside yourself and accurately assess what you are capable of doing. Latch onto that potential and make a positive change in your life. Improve where necessary.